A little pissy....

http://www.forbes.com/home/2006/08/23/Marriage-Careers-Divorce_cx_mn_land.html


Attached is the link to a disturbing article recently written by a male writer at Forbe’s magazine, as well as the rebuttal written by his female colleague.

The gist of the male writer’s article is that men should not marry career women. Her rebuttal is that men should be open to learning the things that a successful spouse brings to the table.

The person who sent me the article is the type of person who wouldn’t mind getting married, quitting work and start pumping out babies - and I don’t hold that against her, it’s her choice. But I know she also sent the article out of fear…almost a here you go ladies, I told you so. I’m not meeting anyone because I have a degree. It’s just who this girl is.

But I was offended that she sent it to me and I told her so because she knows (at least I think she does) that I am not like that. And I disagree with the female writer’s basic point of view. Though I agree that two people can both be successful AND happy, I think the underlying problem of the male writer’s article boils down to insecurity.

My rebuttal would have been simple. Grow a set and shut the fuck up. If you can’t handle that the person you are with may be more successful than you, then the issue isn’t the person, it’s you. And your ridiculous ego. There are plenty of girls out there who want to be taken care of, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. That’s a choice, and the beauty of this day and age is that the choice falls squarely on you. And from what I’ve seen, it’s pretty clear from the get-go when you meet someone what type of life that person wants to lead. Or, throughout the course of the relationship it's something that is discussed...evolved...whatever. But I highly doubt that two years into a marriage, any woman whips around one day and says you know what? All this time I've said I've been a receptionist, but actually, I hold dual masters degrees from Princeton and Yale..and surprise! I'm a CEO!

It should be no huge awakening if a woman's career takes off or if she becomes successful. After all, anyone with a degree hopes for this for at least some part of their working life and the pursuit of that success should be very plainly obvious to a spouse. So if it does happen, and if a man holds that against her, knowing full well who she is before they get married...than he is an asshole and she is better off without him. I’m so tired of men (and women) blaming women for success. Welcome to the 21st century assholes…deal with it.